Thank you so much! Also, would it be possible to make the xml make them invalid for random at the same time? b/c like you said, opposite-gender clothes mess up the mesh, and i don't want to have random sims walking around with a torso that doesn't connect to their legs

It can, but the one drawback is that all ClothingCategory options are part of one flag- so the bit for removing Valid for Random also contains the info for what categories the item appears in, etc.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/124-J0I ... sp=sharing Here's a version with the flag for all categories added (Everyday, Formal, etc), but anything more specific would have to be done on a package-by-package basis.