I attempted to throw a funeral party at the graveyard, but it wasn't in the options on the drop-down list. The sim did have the urn of the recently dead sim in his inventory (though I had him retrieve it from the mausoleum because she wasn't an active sim). He still had a 24-hour broken heart moodlet from her death.

I think, from reading around some forums, that funerals are only available as house parties? Is there a way to make it possible to throw funerals on community lots?

My sims threw a funeral at a graveyard a year or two ago. I had never done it before so had to try it when someone mentioned it on a forum and one of my sims was fried by the scraps table (can't think of the actual name, but that workbench thing).
It worked for me, but the sim was a member of their household. I've never tried to have a funeral for a sim that wasn't in my household.

Bah, so the problem is probably that the dead girlfriend was never in the active household. Well, that's annoying.

When one of my sims dies I always have a funeral. I don't use the phone to "throw a party" I just go to the graveyard and use MC to invite everyone I want over. I use the podium and have a sim make a speech and use ani's Have Coffee With Me mod to have everyone take their seat while a sim conducts the funeral. I use my Mortuary, which has a room attached for the ceremony: http://simplemindedsims.com/2017/06/com ... /#twilight
Here is a video of how ani throws a funeral: <a class="wiki_link_ext" href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_kMijOUdRc" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_kMijOUdRc</a>

This is actually EXACTLY what I planned to do -- get everyone to come over and use ani's mod and the podium. I hadn't seen ani's funeral video, but I saw her one about the town hall meeting. It's brilliant.

I'll take a look at what she does for funerals to see if there are any more touches that would be fun .

Yeah -- it's really not necessary that the thing is a funeral. As far as I can tell, that just adds one more interaction, "Speak Highly Of," which I thought would be nice to have.

Is there a reason you invite folks individually and don't throw a generic destination party?

I never thought about it. I think it's because when guests arrive they always bring food and put in down everywhere. So at a funeral, which is suppose to be more serious, I just lay out the buffet table and let people help themselves after the service. But I do serve coffee first, that way they can grab a cup and sit down for the service. I also use the Tea Table from the store and have guests sit around drinking tea.

Oh, food is a good reason.

This is an outdoor funeral at the graveyard, and I hadn't been thinking there'd be refreshments other than coffee. So I'll try it with individual invitations and see how that works.

That's a reminder to do more with the tea set, though. I like it a lot. I'd just forgotten about it.

What I like abut MC Invite Over is when the list comes up you can select all who you want there and they will all come over and no one refuses to come. Hope your funeral goes well

This worked pretty well, but only half of my planned funeral attendees showed up. Some of them were at work, which would be a timing problem for when I held the funeral. But I'm curious -- is there a way to keep SP from sending this poor sots back to work while they're in transit via MC-Invite Over?

If you know who you want to invite before hand that's going to be at work, I would use MC to give them time off work for that day. So a day before the funeral I would give each one maybe 2-3 days off work.